Lately I have been really questioning my abilities as a mother. Mostly because it seems like everyone one else has a plan. I keep meeting mom’s who have a 10 year plan to help/make/propel their kid into the life of their dreams. Incidentally I do not have any kind of plan. No plan for getting her to read by age two, no plan for helping her to love herself, no plan to turn her into the next AMERICAN IDOL. I am plan-less in Cochrane AB. I have no flash cards, and if I did I don’t have a plan for what they should say (other than GO TEAM).
Tonight a friend of JP's (Brother,21, still lives in basement) came over, When he walked in to the house we were all cleaning. He said "Hi, what can I do to help?" I stared at him. What I wanted to say was "Who raised you? And can I spend large amounts of time asking them questions."
The truth is I feel this way allot. Like I have already irreparably damaged Madi in some way. I think too many of my friends and family are super mom's and that is really my problem. I need some real life mom's in my life
My friends cultivate their children’s individuality, teach them to knit, teach them to cook. I count a day successful if no one pukes on me and everyone is fed and mostly clean. My friends kids play instruments Madi shakes what her momma gave her.
Let’s be honest here, I am NOT looking for a plan, I don’t want a plan, what I want is not to feel bad because I have none. And truly I think our days are full of fun and frolicking. I hate flash cards, how much more must a one year old hate them. Should I really be measuring success by who can read at one or can I just be happy that today Madi didn’t eat dirt!?!
At one years old what is she supposed to be reading anyway?! Frolick away Anita. Plans are made to be broken(or is that rules???). Seriously people do a ten year plan? I'd like to see how their plan turns out in TEN YEARS! No offense but what a waste of energy. Kids are kids, not objects of achievement.
ReplyDeleteAnita I love your blog so much! It brightens my day at work...and it is comforting to know that I'm not the only mother without a plan!
ReplyDeleteSo I guess it turns out none of us are super everyone is just as lost as me ha ha ha well at leats were all in good company
ReplyDeleteWell Anita. If that young man who asked you if he could help is who I think it is, there was never a plan. We love Jesus, pray for our kids, guide them as best we can, enjoy them, discipline them, cry with them, laugh with them, and pray God will protect them. They are only "ours" for the time God sees fit. Ultimately, we all belong to Him and He blesses us by allowing us to influence and nurture these sweet souls. Enjoy, lighten up, don't fret. You are doing awesome!
ReplyDeleteLoving your blog. If it makes you feel any better, Hudson cannot write his own name yet. He just barely learned to count to 10--he can't--or won't even peddle his own bike. Seeing him try to put on his own shoes is a test of patience. He still gets yellow and blue mixed up regularly. We have never had a plan. When people ask what he's in or what he's doing, a frequent response is, "He's 3!!" He most definitely won't be reading by the time he's starts school--he still probably won't even write his own name by then. But, he makes us laugh every single day, and has one of the best personalities ever! Just enjoy--and don't give into the pressure!!
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